Have you ever been hit by a brick wall?
Yeah, probably not, otherwise you wouldn’t be here with us reading this blog post.
Have you ever felt like you were hit by a brick wall?
This is how depression feels.
You don’t want to get out of bed and yet somehow you do.
It’s been awhile since I’ve struggled with depression. It helps that I love my work. The people I work with make my job amazing.
Being A Coach Teaches You Vital Life Lessons
Much of what I’ve learned about how to be a good business coach has helped me deal with sadness and depression.
From reframing techniques to keeping a gratitude journal.
They both played a roll in allowing me to bring more compassion toward myself into my life and heighten my mood.
I remember one rough day. I skipped lunch at work and took a nap in my car. When my alarm went off I didn’t care. I went back into work 20 minutes late and just sat at my desk. I had no purpose. I stopped caring.
We all struggle with our own issues. Some people use alcohol or drugs to cope. Others sleep all weekend. Others choose self compassion with personal tools that work for them.
I coped by drinking and ended up with an ulcer.
I was never a very good drinker. If I have more than 3 beers I get a hangover. More than 5 and I’m worthless the next day.
I had to find other ways to cope.
I’ve relied on friends, family, and my community.
It’s Ok To Reach Out
Now when I feel sad or depressed I reach out to past clients and online groups and offer my help. I have a co-working space where I’ve built my community and two people asked me with help with their websites.
They offered to pay me, but I declined the payment. I said if they want to do more work with me then we can talk about it then.
I just wanted to give back.
I wasn’t in the mood to discuss their site. I was feeling low, but I said yes. I knew that if I helped someone else it would help me stop focusing on my own pain and focus in helping someone else improve their business.
We sat down for and talked about their ideal customer avatar, their niche, and the language that they used on their site. It reenergized me.
It gave me a boost.
I didn’t come out of my funk right away, but it was a stepping stone. Then I decided to review a friend’s home page and send him my notes.
He loved my ideas.
This did the trick. I was back to feeling normal again.
Being A Life Coach Isn’t Easy, But It’s Awesome!
Coaching others is not an easy profession, but a very purposeful one. There is something cathartic about focusing on other people’s problems and issues that helps alleviate your own.
In my opinion I think the best coaches are the ones who have struggled with their own issues, talked about them, and can coach from a position of empathy
They are usually able to bring more compassion to the conversation.
I personally don’t want to work with a coach who doesn’t struggle with aspects of his life. I think struggle helps build people’s compassion muscle as long as they believe in personal growth.
So next time you are feeling down don’t worry, you’re human as Tim pointed out in ‘I’m Too Fat To Be A Life Coach‘
Focus on your client entirely and feel the shift happen.
Is It Ok To Be A Life Coach If You Have Depression?
if you have done any coaching you will know how amazing a great client session can be. How energizing, invigorating and damn right fun!
So yes! Of course you can be a Life Coach if you suffer from mild to moderate depression. In fact if you allow it to, it can make you a better coach and a happier person.
Do you struggle with low energy or depression? What do you do to overcome it and possibly most importantly, have you ever allowed it doubt your ability to coach?
Tim’s Note: I think it took real guts for Karl to write this. The fact that I didn’t even know tells you how much! It’s also important to reiterate, that we are only talking about low levels (or managed) depression. If you are suffering from severe depression, please seek medical help if you haven’t already.