What is your number one job as a Life Coach?
Be careful before you answer the question because in my experience most coaches get it wrong.
Don’t just scroll down, really give it some thought.
Seriously, think about it.
Your ability to think and not just seek the answer immediately is paramount to your learning and ultimately, your success.
Ok, if you really have taken time out to consider your response, we’re good to go.
Is This Your Answer?
If you answered, to hold my clients accountable, you flunked the test.
If you responded, to motivate my clients, get ready for the red marker because you too don’t get an ‘A’ and I’m, itching to ink a big fat ‘F’.
If your clients need you to hold them accountable, then you probably haven’t done your job very well.
If your clients need you to motivate them, then equally, you probably haven’t done your job very well.
Not being accountable and lacking in motivation are symptoms of a deeper problem.
As such if you deal with the symptom then you’re doing a massive disservice to your clients.
What do you do if you get a headache?
If it lasts for longer than a couple of hours, personally I’ll take a couple of ibuprofen and hope it goes away.
If I get another headache the following day, then I may do the same.
By day 4 or 5 however, I’ll sure as hell want to find the cause and not keep attacking my liver with Advil.
Ibuprofen doesn’t treat the cause, it deals with the symptom or symptoms.
You may have a headache because you’re stressed.
Or it maybe because you need glasses and your eyes are working too hard.
Or it may even be because, unbeknown to you, you’re breathing in noxious fumes.
Treat The Cure Not The Symptom
The pain killers doesn’t fix any of those issues, the merely manage the symptoms whilst the body heals itself.
Being there for your client to kick their ass when she is slacking isn’t offering a cure to the problem, it’s merely dealing with the symptom.
Similarly, offering your client words of support isn’t a solution either because a solution shouldn’t rely on you being around all the time to cheer lead or kick ass.
Why does your client lack accountability?
Why does your client lack motivation?
If you don’t know the answer to those questions, then you haven’t gone deep enough and you probably haven’t done effective values work.
Your job as a coach isn’t to create a dependent relationship in which you get wealthy and your client can’t get shit done without you standing over them with a big stick.
That is the antithesis of good coaching.
Your Real Job As A life Coach
You’re a change agent.
Your primary responsibility is to help your clients think differently.
If you can’t do that, then you have failed.
The reason why people pay us hundreds and thousands of dollars to help them rather than buying a book, is because a book cannot ask great questions dependent on the situation.
A book cannot read body language.
A book cannot spot momentary hesitations.
A book cannot answer back or check we got something right.
You job is to ask killer questions that shift your clients thinking and open up a world of opportunity and possibility.
Everything else is gravy.