As you probably know, one of the things that bugs me with the traditional Co-Active coaching model used by the ICF, is that it’s absolutely brilliant right up until the point it isn’t.
If I were to recommend one coaching model and one alone, it would be the Co-Active approach, but in my opinion it’s just not very successful with certain types of issues and people we encounter as professional Life Coaches.
Some of the time on the Coach The Life Coach course is dedicated to using some highly successful intervention techniques, mainly NLP.
A lot of hardcore coaching purists look down their noses at this approach because it’s not in their manual.
Real World Coaching Skills
However, we get to write our own manual and when it comes to helping clients the results (within reason) are all that matters and I want to give coaches real world skills that can allow them to help real world clients.
A week or so ago I was approached by a client asking if I could help his sister-in-law with her intense fear of flying.
She along with her husband and young daughter were due to take just a 90 minute flight to stay with family over the holidays and she was getting very anxious. In fact last year rather than fly they decided to drive 17 hours in awful weather conditions.
Fears like this normally take me two sessions to get to grips with and we were in a time crunch as she was due to fly yesterday. A bit of juggling allowed us to set things up and I took her through the process I teach other coaches.
Did It Work?
Last night I got the following e-mail:
I just wanted to let you know that my flight today was a huge success! Thank you so, so much for your help.
I had kind of a nervous stomach off & on in the hours before takeoff, but never got to a fearful and panicked place. my husband said it was an incredible improvement. I walked down the jetway and into the plane without a weighty sense of dread.
There was some turbulence on takeoff that was a little rough, I had to dig deep for a second to get some calm back, but I did.
Used lots of visualization, posture adjustment, and the submodalities. I wasn’t able to really nail down the anchoring, but I have 12 days to work on it.
Above all, thank you for giving me the power to not only have a positive flight, but also to show my daughter an example of conquering anxieties! She had a great time and never saw her mom scared or nervous.
Thank you, thank you!!”
Am I A Genius?
I’m not sharing this with you to tell you how awesome I am and you should now be lying in supplication at my feet, but to help you understand that these are the kind of results we can achieve when not restricted by some predetermined criteria.
Co-Active coaching wouldn’t have helped this lady one iota, and whereas traditional therapy may have helped, not in the time span we’re talking of.
This is why we do the work we do, to help others make amazing change.
In instances like this the money is byproduct because I got a better buzz from reading that e-mail than I did from seeing the money drop into my PayPal account.
Coaching is broadening, possibilities are expanding, scientific breakthroughs are giving us more and more tools as we start to get a greater understanding of how the human mind and brain work.
You can stick with a method or methods that were in some cases developed half a century or more ago, or you can embrace change and see it an exciting opportunity to be an even more awesome coach than you already are.