Is There A Shortcut To Life Coaching Success?

Have you ever got one of those emails from a barely literate ‘Nigerian Prince’ offering you untold wealth if you responded quickly enough?

Or maybe it was an email advising you that you have won a lottery you have no recollection of ever buying a ticket for?

You may laugh and think the senders are idiots and nobody would fall for such obvious scams, but here’s the real trick they are pulling.

They deliberately misspell words and make outrageous claims because that filters out more aware and less naive people.

They don’t want thousands of people responding who will then cotton on that it’s all a scam way before they hand over their bank account details.

That just wastes their time.

They’d prefer 0.001% of the people who are desperate, naive or just not very smart to reply.

They are the real marks, not the average person.

Outrageous Claims

I got a LinkedIn direct message in August from a brand new connection claiming she could help me get clients worth an extra $25k per month or more.

And if that wasn’t enough, I could achieve this remarkable feat working only 20-25 hours per week!

She then went on to say she only had room for a few people and she was booking up fast.

I ignored it.

A week later I got more or less the same email from her, thanking me again for connecting even though she’d already done so.

I responded saying I wasn’t really interested.

Four weeks later I got another similar email complete with thanking me for connecting once again and again saying she had limited space.

I replied with: ‘Haven’t we already had this conversation? Can you stop messaging me please?’

Then she obviously copied my email address from my LinkedIn profile and yet again sent me the same ‘offer’.

That was the straw that broke the camel’s back because I now felt she was harassing me.

Time To Check Her Out

So the following day I decided to do some research on her starting with checking out her webinar as I ate lunch.

Apparently the $25k per month was just the beginning, it could be much more and she could even start the flow of clients within 72-hours.

She then uttered the immortal phrase beloved by marketers with dubious ethics, ‘I know you may be thinking this is too good to be true, but it really isn’t’

I did some more digging and found she had videos on YouTube from a year ago teaching people how to make money as an AirBnB hostess.

She’d also previously had some business in the pet industry but that domain was for sale so I’m not sure how successful it was.

I couldn’t find anything that showed she’d ever been a coach, never mind a successful coach.

Of course that’s by no means a necessity if you’re good at online marketing, but equally I couldn’t find anything that demonstrated she had the kind of other worldly marketing skills that would allow her to follow through on her promises.

All the videos of hers I found were, like the webinar, terrible quality. Not at all the kind of thing you expect from a marketing genius.

When I messaged her telling her what I had found and saying was going to blog about it, she blocked me and then, and I kid you not, started following me under the pseudonym of Karen Rave.

I don’t think she was adopting the Nigerian Prince strategy, but I could be doing her a grave disservice and maybe she’s a lot smarter than I give her credit for. 

It’s Tough Out There  (but that just makes it more worthwhile)

The majority of coaches are struggling for clients and there are a growing number of people looking to exploit that, many of whom failed at coaching themselves.

When you don’t know where your next client is coming from it’s easy to be seduced by somebody telling you they can guarantee you an endless and almost immediate stream of high-ticket clients.

It instills hope and as human beings we need to have hope.

However, when somebody offers us that hope if we are desperate we don’t usually look for reasons as to why they may be a fraud or why they cannot really supply what they promise.

This is never more apparent than when people who have lost a loved one seek the help of a clairvoyant in making content.

Or when terminally ill people shun palliative care and instead seek out non-medical people making outrageous claims.

Both offer hope whereas rational thinking does not.

I thought long and hard about writing this post because I don’t want to come over like a bitter malcontent, but this is a topic I feel so strongly about.

Rightly or wrongly I’m protective of other coaches who are trying to do things properly and our industry as a whole.

I don’t want people hurting the overall reputation.

I may teach coaches, but I’m still a coach just like you.

I’m sorry to say, but unless you have $1,000’s to spend on marketing, there are zero short cuts to succeeding as a coach.

Is There A Shortcut To Life Coaching Success?

You may be surprised that I’m going to say ‘yes’.

Well maybe not a shortcut per se, but certainly a shorter cut.

And it’s hiring a coach who has done what you want to do and who can help you avoid making the same mistakes they made and focus on what actually works.

I’m confident I can help any new or struggling coach.

But I will never claim it’s easy.

I will never claim you can do it in weeks rather than months.

And I will never tell you it’s too good to be true.

Having said all that, I’m not for everybody and you may benefit more from hiring somebody else.

In which case, do your research and don’t be swayed by outrageous claims without massive proof.

Oh, and if for some reason you’re interested in seeing the thread I took screenshots before she blocked me and you can download the PDF with the whole sorry story on by clicking here.

Comments

  1. Michael Wecke

    Here is my UX for Tim Brownson: No BS from him for aspiring coaches: Telling it straight as it is – no instantaneous results or riches. That makes for credibility, because any person with a few brain cells firing in sync may know intuitively that becoming a coach will take a commitment to learn the ropes, invest in a website, invest in marketing, having a proper “conversation” with prospects to gain their trust and sign on – and knowing all this doesn’t happen overnight. And in my experience, if it looks too good to be true – it probably is! “NinjaGrowthStrategies”?? LMAO!! But incredibly and sadly..yes! Some people will fall for this Snake-oil tactic.

    • Tim Brownson

      I had a great email from somebody who said, ‘ If ninja is in the name, it better be a movie” That made me lol.

  2. Lee Milnes

    Unfortunately there are people out there who abuse trust and faith, I have fell foul to some which I freely admit, the reciprocity (?) that keeps getting bandied about appears to be for a select few and yes I have made some cock ups on Joint ventures making a proper fool of myself.

    • Tim Brownson

      Lee, we ALL fall fro something from time to time. I’ve allowed two clients to totally rip me off by being too trusting, so don’t give yourself a hard time. Instead see it as a learning experience.

  3. A great “shortcut” to becoming a successful coach, I’d say, is to treat it as a real business. Study marketing – or hire a marketing coach (with real experience – NOT a life coach who claims to be a marketing coach); get help to create a good marketing plan, and work that plan.

    “Studying marketing” entails becoming clear on Who you serve and What exactly will you serve them; and HOW will you approach them in order to get hired… and when you do this, I’d say that’s a pretty good bulletproof “shortcut.” Though, yes, just as Tim says it in the article, the best way is to hire a coach who’s been there and done it. You can’t wing any of this, or you’ll end up struggling…

    • Tim Brownson

      Well I’m a Life Coach and I can claim to be pretty good at marketing 😉

      But I get your gist!

      • Lee and Tim! I feel you! I let myself get ripped off too! Hard lesson to learn. However, so worthwhile! I can smell a charlatan a mile away and I’m far less trusting of joint ventures now. I feel smarter and more equipped now in business and in life for that matter. I totally made a proper fool of myself too! Such is life! Learn, grow, evolve and don’t make the same mistake twice!

  4. Hey Tim,

    I liked this article. Thank you for writing it.

    I hope you don’t mind me sharing something that came up as I read it.

    One line stood out for me:

    “And it’s hiring a coach who has done what you want to do and who can help you avoid making the same mistakes they made and focus on what actually works.”

    Coaching, as defined by the ICF, doesn’t mean the coach has to be an expert in the subject matter they’re coaching. If you are doing that, I think you’re closer to a “consultant” or “mentor.” One of my pet peeves of the life coaching industry is “coaches” selling their experience as credibility instead of their ability to partner with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires clients to maximize their personal and professional potential. I think it’s all too easy to call oneself a “coach” these days which can have an undermining effect on those coaches who invested in credible training programs.

    Thanks for allowing me the space to share my thoughts. Keep up the great writing.

    Eric

    • Tim Brownson

      Firstly Eric, your thoughts are always welcome and appreciated, so keep ’em coming!

      It’s easy to get wrapped up in the ICF description and think that is *the* description, but it’s entirely arbitrary.

      Whereas I rely on the co-active approach (which is what we are talking about) for 75% of the time, I’m not suddenly not a coach when I adopt a different modality and engage in business coaching.

      It’s a fine line.